When we understand how something works, then it makes sense to us and there remains no level of difficulty anymore.
For many years our elders (the older generations) have encouraged us to educate ourselves “pay attention in school”, “read a book” and “do your homework”. Why so?
As stated above the time in our lives when we learn something is a time when our future anxities of not understanding have been lifted. We do not at the time of learning know when we will need or use the information we have learned and for many youth it may seem a little mundain and “stupid” to be learning.
Though we are learning all of the time “everyday is a school day” and all that.
As we get older / mature a little we are deemed to have learned a more and so some wisdom is assumed with the passing of age. The trouble with assumptions? Yup you are right, they are not always right. I have experienced many on both ends of the scale, older people who are dumb as a rock with very little wisdom and then those who are young and quite wise already.
No naming names and no pointing fingers, the position I always prefer is looking at my own situation or position. My own learning and wisdom, whatever these may be.
Wise beyond my years is something I have heard or been told since I was very young. I did not understand it though therefore I remained confused. My learning capabilites were always fine tuned and in tact. When I need to understand something I bend my brain to figure it out and do the necessary research. I encourage all children I meet to study and research things as often as I can and I believe in the process of learning, not only academics, this game of life too.
I guess the events that I have encountered in my personal life have brought me to many positions of scepticism. Almost as if to go against my need for learning. An inbuilt nature of mine to gain insight and understanding. Then the oxymoron I think it is called. Might as well be oxycontin if ya ask me, same blurred effects, lol.
Point being I thrive on learning and understanding and then become discouraged when learning the real facts, eager to learn in life then followed in a hurry to forget. Why so?
Life can be a real true bitch, the lessons can be very hurtful and pain can sit with us for a long time. I know many of you understand this though you do not devote a portion of your week to writing it out and putting these things up for discussions like I do. I do it because of what I have learned, this is that many people find themselves in places where they are hurting and do not have many outlets to help figure it out. So I write about it because I have been one of “those people” for many years and the days when I began to gain understanding was when I learned that there are many people hurting just like me.
Many of us who have always been eager to learn and to thrive in life. Many of us who have not wronged any individual on any deep rooted malicious level. Yet we ask the questions of why and how, many times over.
My lessons are not always clear and my path has been many things though never really smooth or straight. Conformity is my kryptonite and so I continue to live and breathe outside of the box. Do you?
I imagine a bright day always, I believe in love of humans and life. Though I may often times wish to release my angers and pains and inflict onto others some form of hurt. Here is where the wisdom kicks in, it is not a wise choice to do so although I may feel like it, not wise to take such actions.
Where does such anger come from? What lies beneath the surface of my feelings, do we dare ask ourselves? Do we dare scratch the surface and uncover the real me?
I do not question when I laugh and when I find anything amusing so why do I question the deeper stuff? Have you ever wondered that or have you been too bitter and stuck to consider the hows and the why? Perhaps you are like me and in learning along our life journey you do understand that it takes great courage and determination to trust in the process.
Imagine for a second to consider what all the stress is about and imagine that if we were to stress all day about the sun will not come up tomorrow and the world is doomed. We could do this as it is only a matter of choice / choosing to do so. Imagine all day destroyed because we lose faith in the simple fact that the sun will rise tomorrow and all we need to do is have some trust in the process / cycle of life. We do not consider that night and day will not come around, so why do we worry about other stuff. How come we do not apply the same trust process as we do to each day?
We make plans for our future and so we definitely believe that we will live another day and the sun will rise and fall as normal almost as if we have that piece on some kind of auto pilot then we go off on tangents and lose the idea of trust in the process like “what if they say no” , “what if it rains”, what if they don’t like me”, “what if I break down and cry”, what if…. what if… We lose the trust in the simple process and we lose sight of the simplicity.
There have been times where I have lost sight of love and niceness and then other times when I catch tiny glimpses which restore me. Although I have many times considered myself naive for even considering the good and beautiful of love and humanity. To this I have learned a strategy of zero expectations, when I expect nothing from the outset then there is very little room for any disappointment. Again with the learning curve.
Why have I become sceptical at moments in my life? Why did I lose focus on the trust the process factor?
Because life is tough, lessons can be harsh and we sometimes are left feeling depleted.
I understand a person who speaks from these positions, is this wisdom or awareness?
Most of the time the learning and the opinions or thoughts are all occuring inside of my head and the thinking can be fast and sharp too. Though the depression and depletion can come from my feelings, the scepticism from feelings too. Losing faith in love and beauty and all the nice warm feelings. Where do they go to?
So here is the trust the process piece. And many of the facts of simple life.
Friends will come and go.
Money will come and go.
Good times will come and go.
And the trust the process piece is……….
Friends will come and stay and be life long.
Money will come and stay and be life long.
Good times will come and go…
Feelings will come and go.
Feelings will be bad and hurtful and then become replaced by beauty and love.
These will go too and the process continues.
What process? The process of life and our journey. Ever cycling through us and there for us to enjoy. Who wishes to remain sruck? Who wishes to remain without love? The trust is that we are to have great confidence in is that beauty is all around us, beautiful people are all around us and love is everywhere.
Wisfom says, begin to look for it and you will find it. Begin with a willingness to overcome and you WILL overcome.
Trust the process and the process will deliver you.
This is what constant learning has helped me to understand and I write it out for those of you who find yourself unsure today.
Oh yes Aidan such great words, now how do we find it? Have a trust inside of you that when you are unsure, know that you are on the right path and you will be delivered to a place of beauty and love. Our duty is to remain open to it and not be too scared of it when it shows up.
When you find it and when you get a tiny glimpse of it, trust it to be true and real. Love and beayty await us all. My responsibility is to trust the process of life and I will be delivered to my happy place time and time again. All I have to do is apply a little focus here and there and gone are the days of wishing to strangle somebody, more so the fog lifts and the beauty is revealed to where I wish to hug a person as it appears more powerful than all.
These are what learning in life has given me the gift of knowing and the ability to trust in the process as time and time again I have received love from my fellow human beings.
I hope you can find comfort today in knowing somebody out here on the internet knows what it is like to have pain just like how you find yourself today and they are writing their blog for you today to help encourage you to remain trusting and open to receive love the way you absolutely deserve.
Your thoughts, opinions and comments welcomed.
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