Of course keeping you interested is an important piece of the whole thing.
By sticking to the model.
Is it possible that you know yourself very well?
Like, in the way in how you think or even like in the way in how you feel one thing or another.
Do you really know yourself?
I wish to motivate you in your daily life.
I wish to offer to you concepts and simple tools to bring about a powerful feeling about yourself.
I wish to offer to you a little piece of where I am coming from and I wish to show to you how many things are very possible for yourself. I refer to these things as “tools”
So for me the task is, what about those who find they have no need for motivating?
The people who are operating just fine.
The people who have it all together.
I write this for all of the people, those needing motivating & those not needing motivation. There are many paths to achieving and succeeding.
Back to the subject line.
“Monday Motivation ~ You are worth more than you know”.
This is a big deal. This is a very big deal.
There are many of us who are not sure why we think certain ways and there are many of us who are never quite certain why we get one feeling or another.
We never wish to run for therapy just because we have a little uncertainty in our lives about ourselves.
I have been accused of having hidden agendas and of being a selfish individual. I have been accused about a whole ton of other stuff too.
The best piece of it all has been that I have never allowed any such accusations define me.
Like what? You may wonder.
The nuts and bolts of the deeper types of personal hurt and anguish have been brought about by my own loss and grieving.
The processes in which I have found myself.
Imagine level 10 on your worst nightmares.
Imagine the pains that we all like to avoid or never wish to occur. Emotional hurt, pain and trauma.
I thought I would never mend or never again be sane.
Many of you know of my “story”. Many of you cannot fully understand it though you are aware that something tragic has occurred in my life.
When I was 35 years young. I received a phone call to tell me that my first born son, named Darra, had died. He at that time was 3~4 weeks into his 15th year of life.
He had never been ill or anything like that. He was not involved in some horrible accident. He went to sleep on a Sunday night and he did not wake up for school the following Monday morning. It is called “Sudden adult death syndrome” SADS for short.
Grief and grieving were all new to me and they began with a bang. Been going on ever since tbh.
Patrick was 1 year and 4 months old at the time.
I was a grieving father at the time WHEN Patrick drowned.
Then I became a doubled up type of person. Sometimes we hear about someone being doubled over with pain. As in, they are severely bent over due to pain in their gut.
At that time I was doubled over with pain on a double level.
Darra & Patrick both gone from my life. Gone from the earth. Gone forever.
So I write about them to allow you to speak their names.
Just like you every day. It does not ever have to be specifically a Monday.
With all the pain encountered by me in these two very unique situations, I really thought life was over for me.
I found it very hard to see something of a future.
I have also still been the same old me.
The same old me with a twist though. Now I am a person who has had to reinvent myself three or four different times in life.
I have had to scrape myself up off the floor in a spiritual way, an emotional way & in a mental way.
(can I be accused of all the same selfishness and not giving a **** as before? Absolutely)
I have learned and seen life through some very clear lenses since.
I had options through out my time grieving my children.
I am very proud to share with you that I have very recently completed my 5th book. I have made improvements to my author website and I have completed a stage play script. (don’t worry auditioning calls will be announced lol)
You can look them up on amazon if you would like to read more about my life. And these books will give you a clearer idea of why I know I am well qualified to write this post to you today.
17 and Life, memoir.
Layman’s Handbook, self help book.
I shared 27 chapters of some of the simple tools I found along my own journey. I wanted to use my own experiences to shed a light for any who have found themselves in dark places.
So back to you.
You will see that from my first two memoirs how I arrived at a place where it only made sense to share some of my own findings in an easy to read book of self help, self care, self love in layman’s Handbook. After all I am merely a layman in life. I wrote it for all out there who are just like me.
I understand what it is like to convince oneself of something, anything for that matter.
I understand what it is like to run away from emotions.
I understand what it is like not to have any answers and feel like a failure.
I felt like a complete failure as a father.
I understand how the mind can play tricks on us and I understand fully what it is like to feel down, worthless or having a serious lack of motivation for life.
Yup the real and the raw of life and how we may feel about it.
It can be very tiring. Consumes us. We can allow other people to consume us. We can tire from simple chores. We can become frustrated with everything and everybody.
Taking a little moment to realign your own day can bring about almost miraculous results.
“You are worth more than you know” .
It does not have to be all major big stuff to start with. There does not have to be any dramatic big changes or anything major. Tiny little changes can mean the world to someone like me or you when things are dim and very down.
The strength you desire to continue and keep on batting are within you.
I have experienced it first hand inside of myself.
You too are human just like me and you possess these inside of what you already know.
Sometimes all you need is a little understanding (maybe even a nudge).
Yes I knew exactly why I was feeling down. I miss my sons.
You can take my word for it.
There are many strategies to winning in work life. There are many strategies for winning in home life.
There are many ways in which to feel alive and well in our own lives.
If I can suffer such loss and write to you today about my books and my writing, about which I am very proud. Then you also can achieve great things.
If I can lose my two sons and find a path to write to you to encourage you to live and motivate your life.
Then so can you.
I may have had to dig a little deeper inside of myself due to the circumstances I found myself in. And you may have to dig even deeper than me.
You are worth more than you know.
My grief the last 3 years.
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Somebody out there needs to read this today.