9 time out of 10 ~ What you want to hear!

9 time out of 10 ~ What you want to hear!

What do you want to hear? These  16 items below.
You are my idol, you inspire me, you look wonderful, you are hot, your intelligence is attractive, you have a presence of awesome, you light up any room, I am so in love with your mind, I feel safe around you, you make me laugh, I adore you, I love you, I love being in your company, everything looks good on a good looking person, you are so kind,  thank you for being you.

What do we actually hear. These 3 items below,
you fucking idiot, I hate you, you ruin everything,

So how can it be that those 3 negative comments can last for decades? Maybe you heard them more than the 16 items above. Why do they stick and why do we remember those and carry them  with us for an entire lifetime?
Perhaps we do not hear the nice words often enough. I can refer to my good psychologist friends on the findings of how we inside the human brain have a need to hear 5 times more positives than negative comments in order to formulate a balance. In other words it takes 5 more compliments to out-weigh 1 negative comment inside of our brains. Society operates on the put downs and the negatives and they are in such abundance everywhere we turn that there has been no escaping them. Where do we turn to find the uplifting comments and nicer words? Who will provide us a constant stream of niceness to help out-weigh all that negarivity inside of our brains.
In my era the put downs have come from everywhere, all kinds of places that I have witnessed. Not always things directed at me though I have heard them being said.
A parent ~ There is something WRONG with my child.
A teacher ~ You will never amount to anything.
A Priest ~ You are all sinners and God died for your sins.
These are three key influential people in life, only three influencers who may have had the most damaging effect on you and not always directed at you. Often times directed at anorher child while you were present and overheard.
The systemic put downs even exist in all the criticism in the industry of fashion and magazines. Girls have been targetted more severely than boys in this area. Magazines that show petite models showing off clothes and make up. Questionaires that highlight being overweight as bad, make up products to enhance beauty and mostly sold as ways to hide ugly. Hollywood for how awesome the actresses are and the idea of the perfectly beautiful model of a woman an actress must be. The pressure appears to be on from a very young age.

As for the boys, wow! Systematic which means across the board. Boys from a very young age have been encouraged not to cry that it is a sign of weakness. Be tough and be strong. Man up. Be a man about things. Pressure again rampant within our society. Are you a man or a mouse?

Hard enough to make changes to ourselves never mind an entire global society. Although there is an alternative, now that we are aware of the reuqirement of needing to hear nicer things on a day to day basis. How about we begin to infect society with a little positivity? Today I will tell somebody 5 nice things. Today I will begin to make a differemce and for no other reason I will pay 5 compliments to people somewhere throughout my day.
We can be the uplift that we need. When we begin to pay forward the nice comments and the positive encouragements then we in turn will most probably receive similar. Making this become a habit can be the drop in the ocean that we need. Not forgetting that the entire ocean is made up of a great number of droplets. Let us make positive waves in fulfilling what it is us humans need in our lives. We may not stamp out all the negativity though we can do an absolutely fantasric job at bringing about a balance that humans need. And we are part of the human race too. Believe me you will have a much greater impact in life than paying any kind of carbon tax by simply being nicer to each other and helping to balance the elements of positive and negative in your own world around you.

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